“It’s a huge responsibility to be yourself. It’s much easier to be somebody else or nobody at all.” – Sylvia Plath
Have you ever just wanted someone to understand and to keep their mouth shut, all at the same time? You know these moments – the times when you just need someone to see you, not try to fix you? No preaching, just a warm embrace and an understanding heart…
I’ve recently noticed a large number of young adults tweeting about how they feel unloved, misunderstood, and invisible. What’s tragic is that no one is reminding them of their value, their humanity, and their potential. Parents often have unrealistic expectations, peers are constantly one-upping each other, and society’s message is one of “you’re insufficient; you need ____”. I wish they could see their worth and the potential within them…
Pop culture gives us a distorted view of cool, loved, important, successful, and beautiful. Social media and access to 24/7 digital entertainment has convinced us that we’re imperfect, flawed, and abnormal compared to those people.
“The only normal people are the ones you don’t know very well.” – Alfred Adler
Do you think that your disorder, your past, or your social status makes you damaged goods? What you don’t know is that the “normal” people around you are fighting their own wars behind their eyes. They aren’t normal. There’s no such thing in a world full of creatures who are fallen and desperate for redemption.
For much of my life, I have fought to be seen as someone who is strong, attractive, and successful. For much of my life, I have felt as if I’m miserably failing at obtaining those attributes. What I saw as strong was actually insecurity behind a mask of over-confidence. Attractiveness was a vapor of temporary admiration by people who really didn’t care about me. The success that I desired was merely a mirage of empty nothingness wrapped in currency. I had believed a lie.
What is the truth about me, about you, and about each person within our world?
What other people say about you doesn’t define you. Choose to become the best version of yourself, regardless of the opinions of others.
There is no “successful”; there is only you doing your best work. Cool has always been irrelevant; being you is something we’ve never seen before.
What if you accepted that you are loved, valuable, and full of potential? What if you actually believed that, allowing it to transform how you viewed yourself?
You are loved.
You are valuable.
You are full of potential.
You are enough.