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Suicide Prevention Week 2016: Why Your Feelings Don’t Determine Your Value

“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true. The other is to refuse to accept what is true.” – Soren Kierkegaard

My dreams haven’t quite gone the way I had hoped. Sharing Jesus with the world? Yeah…Not quite happening the way I envisioned. Becoming a world-famous actor? Nope. Strike two. Being completely healed from my anxiety and depression? I’ve come a long way, but I still have miles to go.

The feeling of being a depressed, anxious, spiritually-frail failure has dominated my self-esteem far more than the truth. I’ve believed lies, which have often guided me to the realm of despair.

But who am I really?

Am I a failed actor? No. Acting was just one of many aspects of my life.

Am I my disorder? No. Just because I have a personal battle doesn’t mean that my life doesn’t have an impact in so many other ways.

Am I my lack of spiritual prowess? No. Jesus came to save the weak, not the self-righteous. I may be weak in my faith, but Jesus still loves me in the midst of my questions and doubts.

Whenever I talk with young adults about their various struggles, I often hear the following:

“But I don’t feel like my life matters.”

“I feel like a loser.”

“I feel so lonely and meaningless right now.”

“I’m afraid to fail, because I feel like I mess everything up.”

“I feel like I will never heal…It feels like I’ll always be this way.”

The truth?


The truth is hard to accept when our feelings are lying to us, but the truth is the truth, regardless of our feelings.

So…What’s true? This:

You are loved.

Your life matters.

God created with you with you in mind, not someone else.

You have more to offer than you believe right now.

There are people in this world who care about you, even if you haven’t met them yet.

Healing is real (trust me, I know).

It’s OK to be broken.

You’re not alone in your pain.

The future is created by your choices; it’s not determined by your past.

It’s time to believe what is true. It’s time we stopped allowing our feelings to dictate who we become and who we choose to be. It’s time to reclaim our true identity.

You were made in the image of God, not the image of failure, disorder, or brokenness. You are a fascinating work of art!

It’s time to believe the truth.


  1. Taylor Fitzpatrick Taylor Fitzpatrick

    Thanks for this, Andrew – loved it!

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