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Sometimes I Don’t Want Words, Just You With Me In The Silence

“We all need a friend who’ll sit with us in silence when words won’t work.” – Unknown

One of my favorite movies is “Good Will Hunting” – a story about a young, troubled genius who is loved and nurtured by a community college professor in Boston. Throughout the film we see moments where Sean Maguire (Robin Williams) listens and sits in silence with Will Hunting (Matt Damon), allowing Matt to have time to think and just “be”. Despite Will’s insistence that he’s alone in the world, the presence of Sean completely destroys that belief of self-betrayal. It’s one of the most beautiful moments in all of cinema.

If we’re honest, when we’re hurting, sometimes we don’t want words. A warm embrace and the presence of someone who loves us can be the best medicine when words aren’t enough.

You may say, “Andrew, that sounds amazing, but…I don’t know anyone who will sit with me and love me in the silence.” Don’t despair; there are people in this world who care about you, even if you haven’t met them yet. Keep hoping and keep believing that those friends will come into your life one day. When you may not expect it, “one day” will arrive.

Do you have a friend who is currently going through a season of heartache and pain? Maybe you feel like everything you say is going in one ear and out the other. Have you taken time to just sit in silence with that person, being a physical reminder that they are loved?

There are times when we need words of encouragement, and then there are times when we just need each other. There is power in the presence of those we love.

It’s fascinating how you can be alone in a crowd of thousands, but comforted in the presence of just one soul…Such beauty in intimacy and being “truly known” and “truly loved”.

Be that presence for someone else.


  1. This is great. I just read a guest post on Jeff Goins site by Mike Forester about what not to say to hurting people. Just agreeing life is tough, then sitting in the mess with people, just like God does, is enough.

    • I’ve experienced it myself, as I’m sure you have, as well. It’s powerful.

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