“To the degree we are willing to be ourselves is the degree to which we can honestly feel loved. The risk is always rejection.” – Donald Miller
I hate being rejected…HATE. No one should admit that publicly, especially on a blog that discusses healing, faith, and hope. It sounds so weak, doesn’t it? Yet, here I am, admitting that I am incredibly insecure in the face of rejection.
Oddly enough, I spent much of the last decade wanting to be an actor…Yeah, that doesn’t involve much rejection…I’m such a contradiction.
Beth and I love the show “The Office”. If you’ve seen it, then you know about the constant conflict between Jim and Dwight. If you don’t watch it, feel free to skip to the next paragraph. Quite possibly the best altercation between Jim and Dwight happens when Jim throws a snowball in Dwight’s face, inciting an all out war that results in Jim being absolutely destroyed by Dwight in the company parking lot. Every time I see them having conflict, I think, “Why can’t they just get along?” Then I consider how boring the show would be…
In real life, it’s not as much fun as watching comedians pretend to hate each other. In real life, it’s easy to forget that our worth isn’t dependent upon another person’s opinions. In real life, rejection hurts like a dagger sticking into our souls. In real life, rejection is like someone saying, “You don’t matter to me.”
I’m almost 33 and I’m still learning a difficult lesson:
Not everyone will like me, no matter how hard I try to win their approval. And ya know, that’s alright. I’m still worth so much to God and there are still people in this world who want to be in my life.
Maybe this war with rejection is just a personal struggle; maybe you don’t understand what I’m talking about. However, if you can relate, are you willing to embrace the fact that not everyone will like you? Are you willing to accept that some people will see the worst in you, not the best?
It’s time I accepted this and became stronger in the identity I have as God’s son, not as some reject in the eyes of other fallen human beings.
What about you? Are you willing to embrace the reality that not everyone will like you? Are you willing to rest in the fact that you are worthy, regardless of the opinions of others?