“Isn’t it funny how it’s lonely people who want no one around.” – Anchor & Braille, Nightfall
The darkest nights of my life, I was often alone. I wanted to be alone. “No one needed to see those broken parts of me”, I said as I hurt by myself. My heart craved for someone to tell me that everything would be alright, but my fear told me that I would be pushed away and rejected. Loneliness was an easier choice than risking rejection.
It’s one thing to be confident and comfortable being alone, because that is going to be the case for many seasons in life. We aren’t going to always have friends and family near, which is healthy. We don’t need to be dependent upon other people to give our lives meaning. However, it’s a whole other thing when we push people away when we’re hurting, for fear that they will take off, never to be seen again.
Make no mistake; I have been rejected and hurt many times when I let others in during my worst moments…Not everyone cares about your heart. Yet, I have also found incredible life and healing in the presence of a friend who loved me and met me in the pain…It was worth the risk.
Not everyone deserves a place in your life. Be mindful who you invite into your journey. Not everyone cares, but there are people who do genuinely want to be there for you.
It’s hard being lonely. Going through life alone is painful, especially when you are trying to figure out your place in this life. We all need to walk with others in the joys, the heartache, and the uncertainty.
This I know: there are people in this world who care about you; you just may not have met them yet.
Never lose hope that you’ll find good friends. They exist. The best relationships often appear in the most unusual of places.
If you’re lonely and you’re hurting, don’t do this alone. It’s not worth it. Find a good community of faith to join who will care about you. Seek the right help. Talk about the pain. It’s OK. You’re not alone.