I think it’s time that I wrote about the tragedy of suicide. This is an incredibly difficult topic to address, so I’m not going to overcomplicate it or use words full of pretense.
Let me be completely honest from the beginning:
Suicide has never been, is not presently, and will never be the answer to your problems.
Let’s bring to light another reality: the world is incredibly dark, wicked, and full of pain. And yet, it’s incredible how much hope, life, and healing can be found, even in the darkest of days. This world tells us lies that we’re no one unless we have fame, sex, money, perfect health, or the ideal family. The truth of the matter is that fame is fleeting, sex isn’t equivalent to love, money decays, good health doesn’t last forever (for anyone), and the ideal family is incredibly hard for anyone to find in the 21st Century.
The lies we hear on TV and in pop culture are simply that: lies. So, let me set the record straight by sharing some truth we all need to hear:
- You don’t need a sexual relationship to be complete. Love is much more than sex.
- Drugs will destroy you. Take care of yourself. Find help. Invest in your dreams, not your demise.
- Real friendships are developed in vulnerability – being known for who you truly are – not in compromising your convictions and your integrity to be accepted.
- You have incredible potential, regardless of the opinions of your parents, “friends”, or peers. Some of the greatest achievements in history have been accomplished by those who were rejected as incompetent, misfits, and lesser-knowns. Remember: other people have no power to determine your potential.
- Struggling with a disorder doesn’t determine your value. You are a human being with breath in your lungs, love to give in your heart, potential to change the world, and the fingerprints of God all over your soul.
- Healing is incredibly real.
- You are the someone others need in their lives to listen to them, to cry with them, to laugh with them, and to heal with them. We need you. Others DO need you, whether you can see that right now or not. Everyone has hurt and pain that they carry with them, often wishing that someone would take the time to listen and to give a warm embrace. You are that someone.
- Maybe you feel unloved. It’s possible that your family, friends, or peers are unloving towards you (in other words, they suck). Yet, the truth of the matter is, there are many people who love you; maybe you just haven’t met them yet. God loves you. He has always loved you. You have never been unloved. Maybe the idea of God and His love is too hard to grasp right now, but that doesn’t change the truth. In my beliefs, the cross speaks louder than mere words.
Renowned scientist Stephen Hawking recently shared a discovery about black holes in space and how they relate to the struggle with depression:
“The message of this lecture is that black holes ain’t as black as they are painted. They are not the eternal prisons they were once though…things can get out of a black hole both on the outside and possibly to another universe. So if you feel you are in a black hole, don’t give up – there’s a way out.” – Stephen Hawking
There’s a way out.
No matter how dark, there’s a way out.
No matter how painful, there’s a way out.
No matter how lost, there’s a way out.
No matter what others say to you, there’s a way out.
No matter what you’re going through, there’s a way out.
…And that way out is NOT taking your own life.
Cling to hope. Ask for help. Seek healing. Dream of better things to come. Look for opportunities to love others in their pain and their joy. Seek after truth. Embrace grace. See the beauty in every moment. Create new expressions of light and hope.
Joy exists, hope exists, healing exists, beauty exists, imagination exists, and love exists.
You exist and your life matters.